To be human

1 05 2012

Just a few questions to get you thinking.  Let’s start with something a little less heavy.  If a bird can no longer fly, is it still truly a bird?

What qualities do you think define a true human being?  The ability to think?  Having all 5 senses?  The ability to reason?  Is having human DNA and coming from human parents enough?

Is a mass murderer human?

Is a someone who is brain dead and on life support human?

Is an infant with no concept of self and who is completely reliant on others to stay alive human?

Do you believe you are a true human being?

No need to comment, just something to think about for yourself.  I’ll leave you with one of my favorite Xkcd comics:

Only emulate the successful

21 04 2012

Something annoying to me: people taking advice from unsuccessful people.  For example, let’s imagine two people, Sarah and Bob.  We ask each of them: how can i get straight A’s?

Bob: “It’s easy.  You just need to listen in class, take a lot of notes, read through the books, and basically spend every waking moment studying.”

Me: “So Bob, is that how you get straight As?”

Bob: “No I’m not willing to put in the time so I don’t get straight A’s.”

Me: “Well how about you Sarah?”

Sarah: ” Well, in class I use a special note taking method called QEC.  It helps me understand rather than memorize.  Anything I don’t understand, I put a question mark by it and fill in the answer within a day or two, long before a test.  I have a very focused method of studying in which I set definite goals and shut off all outside communication so I don’t get distracted.  (… etc etc) I usually finish all my work within a few hours after school, then do whatever.  I do get straight A’s with this method.”

Most people are like Bob, they ‘know’ that you need to spend a lot of time studying to get A’s.  If you asked Bob for advice, he wouldn’t hesitate to tell you.  This annoys the crap out of me because why in the heck would you listen to Bob, who doesn’t have straight As but thinks he knows how to get them?  It should be obvious that Sarah is the one to listen to.

This started as a simple ranting blog post, but I came up with a useful tip.  Simply restructure your questioning to first ask if someone was successful at what you want to accomplish.  For example:

Did/do you get straight As?  Were you always a straight A student or did you adopt a strategy?  How can I get straight  As?

Have you been overweight, then lost that weight and kept it off?  How can I lose weight?

Were you ever skinny before putting on all that muscle?  How can I put on muscle?

You may have noticed another type of question I inserted into this new structure.  For lack of a better idea, I’ll call this the “natural talent eliminator” question.  You only want to take advice from people who have been in your situation and worked to get where you want to get.  It is not useful to ask someone who is naturally muscular how they put on muscle.  Nor is it useful to ask a genius how they study.  Nor is it useful to ask someone who is just naturally a stick figure how to lose weight (one reason behind such bad weight loss advice).

So in conclusion, when seeking advice or to learn something, consider using the following structure:

Did you achieve X? Are you just naturally talented/genetically lucky or did you research and develop a specific method to achieve X?  How can I achieve X?

When Asking for Help, Remember this Tip

18 01 2012

Ask for what you want, not what you think will get you there.

Why?  Because there are probably solutions to your problem you don’t know exist.  I was reminded of this last night when watching Ramit’s webcast on résumé building.  At the beginning of the webcast he was getting questions like: what kind of font should I use on my résumé?  He was cringing because that has almost nothing to do with what makes a good résumé.  There is a note on who Ramit is at the end of this post if you don’t know who he is.

Two Other Examples

Example One, Beer Pong

The example I like to give to college aged kids:  My friend John threw a party at my house a couple years back and built a beer pong table which sits on top of a regular table.  The table is simply two pieces of plywood and some hinges.  While he was setting up for the party I was busy studying for a midterm and he came to me and asked to borrow some books to keep the hinges from bending, like so:

Now, you probably know that college books are EXPENSIVE, averaging over $100 per book.  So obviously, I’m not going to let him use my books to hold together a beer pong table.  Instead he used radiator fluid and my Craftsman toolbox, which you can see below:

This worked, however it was still a poor fix because a hard jostle on the table would still cause it to bend.    If he had told me his actual problem (holding the beer pong table down) I could have solved his problem in 5 seconds: simply use some C clamps (which I have) to hold the beer pong table down.  But, that’s not what he asked me, and thus he had to jerry rig his own poor solution.

Example Two: Fitness!

I was looking on the other day and saw dozens of questions like these:

  • When should I eat protein?  Before or after working out?  How long after?
  • How can I strengthen my abs/core?
  • How many bicep curls should I do?
  • How many calories should I cut?

These have nothing to do with what they actually want: to look/feel better, live longer, and/or be stronger.  Instead of asking for what they want, they’re asking for advice on the  things they’ve heard.

Potential Solutions

One solution is to simply attach the problem you’re trying to solve after the question, like so:

  • Do you have any heavy books I can use?  Because I want to hold my beer pong table together and I think the weights will do that.
  • When do you think I should eat my protein?  Because I am doing X workout routine and want to get muscles fast.
  • What font should I use on my résumé?   Because I’m applying for a job and I want to improve my résumé to improve my chances.

This gives the person you are asking a little more information to work with and thus the ability to offer solutions which are unrelated to your question.  Another solution would be to start with a statement defining your situation.  For example:

I am looking into home defense and was thinking of buying a gun, what kind of gun should I buy?

This question is much more effective than asking something like, what kind of gun should I buy?   The answer to this question will be way different depending on if you want a gun to defend your home, shoot skeet, or hunt.  Also, now that more information has been provided, the person answering could suggest a security service, an alarm system, or a guard dog.

Any other suggestions?  Feel free to post a comment!


If you’re wondering who Ramit is, he is the creator and author of the book and blog “I Will Teach You To Be Rich”.  Definitely check out both!  How good is it?  My brother asked me for advice on what he should do for investing, I sent him an email talking about 10 pages from Ramit’s book and the next day he took action and told me, “I’ve talked with 6 friends IN BANKING and none had anything nearly as good as what you told me.”